36 questions to fall in love
Sit facing each other and both answer each question.
How to useThe 36 questions that bring two people closer
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36 questions to fall in love: what it is for
The 36 questions come from a psychology study on how to build closeness between two people. The tool shows the questions one at a time, in three increasingly personal sets, with a progress bar. The wording here is our own adaptation of the exercise.
After the last question, a timer counts the 4 minutes of silent eye contact that are part of the original exercise.
How to use
- Sit facing each other, with no distractions.
- Read each question and both answer.
- At the end, do the 4 minutes of eye contact.
When to use it
- First dates.
- Couples who want to reconnect.
- Deepening a friendship.
Frequently asked questions
Where do the 36 questions come from?
From a 1997 study by the psychologist Arthur Aron and colleagues, which tested whether two strangers would grow closer by trading more and more personal confidences. The questions became famous in 2015, after an article in The New York Times.
Do they really make someone fall in love?
The study measured closeness, not love. What it showed is that opening up little by little, with reciprocity, creates intimacy quickly. Falling in love depends on much more.
How do we do it the right way?
Set aside about 45 minutes with no distractions. One reads the question out loud and both answer, taking turns going first. Follow the order of the three sets and, at the end, look into each other's eyes in silence for 4 minutes.
Does it work for long-term couples?
Yes. Many couples use the questions to rediscover each other. It also works between friends and relatives.
Is it really free?
Yes, 100% free. No sign-up, no subscription and no usage limits. All Tools123 are free.